Ladies, in your day-to-day travels and experiences I’m sure it is safe to say that many a guy has uttered some kind of witty, or useless line to get your attention. Most times we genuinely want to get to know you and build a good, long-lasting relationship because we can’t always hang out with the fellas. Also, we might take a while to get our act together (for many reasons) and let you all know that we want to be with you but we have good intentions, seriously we do.
However, there are those on the other side of the guy-hooks-up-with-girl spectrum, the ones unfortunately you woman have to deal with the most often the ones that all the relationship magazines and blogs warn about. Simply put, you are the “hey girl”. These dude have no motive other than to spit game to you, serenade you with coy phrases, handle business and then move on to the next sweetheart. You know how the flow goes, as you walk around the mall, shopping plaza or the like you hear it. “hey, hey girl let me talk to you right quick” or “hey baby, can I get some of your time” and the straight to the point “hey, let me get your number?”.
To some degree the pursuit of the fairer sex is more of a game than anything else and to be honest most guys have done this in their lifetime because we do like the “chase”. That being said, fellas there is a point in life when you have to just need to let it go. Why? Because you can’t seduce every pretty woman you ever come across and woman want a companion not a Casanova. Find a woman you can actually have a conversation with instead of seeing what lines work the best on a Friday or Saturday night. Do you really want to be hollering at a woman with tactics you used when you were 19, 20 when you are in your thirties?
So, what are some method to get a woman’s attention in a way that is mature, convincing and interesting? Her’s a quick list:
- Start with a compliment: take notice of her style, her earrings, the way her tattoo is colored, her nail polish color, anything a guy wouldn’t commonly mention. Use your observation skills for other than for her curves.
- Ask for directions: Yes, we normally don’t do this but that’s your ticket in. You can spin a conversation out of where you’re going and ask what her favorite spots are. Eventually ask for a date. See how it goes.
- Food: Food brings us all together. If you’re out and the woman of your dreams is eating, be kind of slick and say something along the lines of “that looks delicious, is that your go to dish?” Strike up a convo from there.
- Bookworm move: If you see her reading, ask her how she likes the book, what she thinks of it what other books excite her and strike up a conversation.
These are just a few suggestions but be creative and use your style to be that cool cat who knows how to talk to a woman.
Keep it smooth.