Hey, Hey….Hey Girl

Ladies, in your day-to-day travels and experiences I’m sure it is safe to say that many a guy has uttered some kind of witty, or useless line to get your attention.  Most times we genuinely want to get to know you and build a good, long-lasting relationship because we can’t always hang out with the fellas.  Also, we might take a while to get our act together (for many reasons) and let you all know that we want to be with you but we have good intentions, seriously we do.

However, there are those on the other side of the guy-hooks-up-with-girl spectrum, the ones unfortunately you woman have to deal with the most often the ones that all the relationship magazines and blogs warn about. Simply put, you are the “hey girl”. These dude have no motive other than to spit game to you, serenade you with coy phrases, handle business and then move on to the next sweetheart. You know how the flow goes, as you walk around the mall, shopping plaza or the like you hear it. “hey, hey girl let me talk to you right quick” or “hey baby, can I get some of your time” and the straight to the point “hey, let me get your number?”.

To some degree the pursuit of the fairer sex is more of a game than anything else and to be honest most guys have done this in their lifetime because we do like the “chase”. That being said, fellas there is a point in life when you have to just need to let it go. Why? Because you can’t seduce every pretty woman you ever come across and woman want a companion not a Casanova. Find a woman you can actually have a conversation with instead of seeing what lines work the best on a Friday or Saturday night. Do you really want to be hollering at a woman with tactics you used when you were 19, 20 when you are in your thirties?

So, what are some method to get a woman’s attention in a way that is mature, convincing and interesting? Her’s a quick list:

  • Start with a compliment: take notice of her style, her earrings, the way her tattoo is colored,  her nail polish color, anything a guy wouldn’t commonly mention.  Use your observation skills for other than for her curves.
  • Ask for directions: Yes, we normally don’t do this but that’s your ticket in.  You can spin a conversation out of where you’re going and ask what her favorite spots are.  Eventually ask for a date. See how it goes.
  • Food: Food brings us all together. If you’re out and the woman of your dreams is eating, be kind of slick and say something along the lines of “that looks delicious, is that your go to dish?” Strike up a convo from there.
  • Bookworm move: If you see her reading, ask her how she likes the book, what she thinks of it what other books excite her and strike up a conversation.

These are just a few suggestions but be creative and use your style to be that cool cat who knows how to talk to a woman.

Keep it smooth.

 

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A Moment for Mom

We at Smooth Vintage want to wish all the mothers, step-mothers, grandmothers, great-grandmothers, godmothers, foster mothers, legal guardian mothers, army mothers, baby mamas, the not with us physically but here spiritually mothers, mothering types, faith mothers and any other mother out there a very happy Mother’s Day.

Thank you for being the rock that holds the family down and thank you for all the little moments you share with us that last a lifetime. Your love, direction and influence helped to shape us into the smooth guys (and gals) of today and we will do everything to always be there just like you were for us.

Treat your mom right, she’s the only one you get.

Keep it smooth.

On time

At some point in your life you’ve probably arrived late to – or completely missed, one of these:

  •  A deadline (for school or work)
  • A show or concert
  • A doctor appointment
  • A dinner date
  • Bills
  • Bus/plane/train/boat to somewhere
  • Court… (yeah, that’s kinda bad huh?)

One thing is for certain, life doesn’t wait for anybody and time cannot be controlled.  Your best bet is that whatever you have scheduled to do or planned on doing, being on time – even early, puts you in a better position to get things done in your life. So, sure, we’ve all missed some event in our lives. But the consistently late, hopelessly tardy, absent all the time mindset is not the business. That is a way of life that produces missed opportunities, wastes precious time (yours and others’) and keeps you playing catch up…to everything.

So what to do?

Three words: Organize your life!

Remember time cannot, absolutely cannot, be controlled.  Learn to manage time wisely and make it a friend. How? Leave early for appointments, pay bills well before the due date then, move on to something else. It all comes down to time management.  The better you become at managing your time the more time you have for more useful endeavours, like watching the game.

Being on time sets you up on the right track, your day flows like a river in the spring and anyone that deals with you will appreciate how you respect their time and not waste it needlessly.

Keep it smooth.