Break up the Routine

You know, our main aim on Smooth Vintage is to provide [from our experiences and others] useful insight, knowledge, opinions and tips about being a man in this modern age with a little classic flavor from a gentleman’s perspective. But, it is always a privilege to get some true game, some real talk from a good women.  A woman who won’t b.s. with you and just tell you how the ladies in general really feel and what they want or don’t want from us most times.

Let me tell you how it went down for me.

It was last Friday afternoon at my job and I’m heading to the break room for a snack.  I was more than ready for the work week to come to an end so the weekend could get started! I get to the break room, get my goods, sit and chill. A friend of mine comes in and we talk about movies, people and relationships. We talk about marriage, kids and the daily routine that sets in after some time. Then she throws me off with this question.

When’s the last time you gave your wife flowers just because?

Damn, hmm, when WAS the last time I gave her flowers just because?

Then she went on to say it didn’t matter if they were $10 flowers or just one rose but how women need/love the small reminders from us guys that show we appreciate them. Even a small note hidden in her purse or bag to say “Have a great day, beautiful” means more than you can imagine.  I started recalling early on in my relationship how I used to send flowers all the time, write notes and leave them in her car or bag, call her up and say I love her and make her feel sexy and admired.

Yes, women need to feel admired and women need to feel sexy and wanted as if they are the last designer boots on sale at Nine West.  It’s our task as husbands and boyfriend to make that happen. But when you start having kids, having a career and getting that responsibility thing rolling you just get into a routine.  Pick up the children, clean the house, make dinner, how was your day, yada-yada, then start over again.  Even if you don’t have kids routine still comes a lurking. Eat, go to work, come home, eat, night-cap, sleep, repeat.  Those little reminders and sentiments become a little less frequent.

But smooth gentlemen we have to break the routine and do our part to let our spouses know why they hooked up with us.  Tell her she looks good, surprise her for lunch, give her a kiss in public, smack her on the ass when she ain’t looking and palm it.  Palm it good!! Make her smile should be the key phrase every day.

Needless to say I did what my friend suggested and bought flowers for my lady that Friday and the look on her face was priceless. It’s all that mattered.

Monday morning though, I still had a smile on my face from what was a really good weekend!

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MLK Day

Today, smooth people, we celebrate the life and contributions of Dr. Martin Luther King.  His vision and work towards racial equality and economic justice continues to be one of the greatest movements in American history.

Here’s a little excerpt from The King Center about his methods to obtain equality:

“King used the power of words and acts of nonviolent resistance, through such as protests, grassroots organizing, and civil disobedience to achieve seemingly impossible goals. He went on to lead similar campaigns against poverty and international conflict, always maintaining fidelity to his principles that men and women everywhere, regardless of color or creed, are equal members of the human family.”

We hope you all took a moment in your day to look back and appreciate Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr and all his efforts to bring us all a little closer together.

To find out more info, check out: The King Center.

Keep it smooth.

Handling Business

This morning, the 15th of January, I observed something incredible as my wife and I dropped our children off for school. I saw dads walking their kid(s) to school, talking with them, telling them to have a good day, watching them play for a few minutes before they left on their daily duties, giving hugs, being involved.

It was humbling and a comfort to see other dads out there performing their dad role. And  I’m not talking about just seeing a couple of dads on the fringes of the playground. I’m talking about a decent number here, maybe 10 or 12, for school drop off. These guys are here doing what any parent should and not asking for any recognition. Just making sure their kids get to school safe and on time.

Respect to all the good dads out there handling business early on.

Stay smooth.

Did That Just Happen?

I’m going to share a situation that happened to me this past week.  It was a great reminder to showcase your etiquette and good humor when it’s easy to be just an ass and make someone’s afternoon difficult, even your own. So here goes.

I’m at Trader Joe’s getting groceries and leave my cart for maybe less than a minute to get applesauce.  I turn back around and my cart is gone! Poof, Houdini-type magic gone and I’m walking down the aisles of the store looking around like I lost my car keys. After what seemed to be a long while I discover this woman pushing my cart like it’s nothing.  I approach her in a gentle, non-threatening manner and say, “Miss, I think you have my cart”.  She looks extra confused, looks down at the cart of food and says, “Oh, this isn’t mine! I’m sorry, they look all the same!”
Wow!
Kinda funny to imagine taking a cart without taking the time to look inside to make sure the food in there looks, you know, familiar. I get it if you’re shopping quickly or have an out of body experience for a few seconds, it happens.  What was the most hilarous moment was later on when I saw her, she didn’t even have a cart with her this woman was just walking around with peanut butter and pasta. Not even a small basket.
I could be wrong but I bet she was waiting to jack another cart of food. Luckily, I practiced my gentleman characteristics and just brushed this incident off as a fun story to tell.
Stay smooth.

Mastering the Sportscoat

I have to warn you, I have not at all mastered the usage of the stylistic and classic garment know as the sportscoat. I’m still working out the kinks of wearing a sportscoat but I’m sure while in my early 30’s I’ll have it down to a science soon enough. Sportcoats are worn like none other and in such a manner it derserved a post of its very own.

Every smooth gentleman must own a sportscoat. Why? Because it can work in just about any setting – house party, club, lounge, after party, movie – and can be worn with just about any clothing option.  Casual cool look? Jeans, polo shirt and a sportscoat.  Casual business meeting towards the end of the week? Slacks, button up and sportscoat.

Be creative and bold but don’t go crazy.  No need to pull out the bright colors with the hipster flare.  If you can do it and not have that old-guy-at-the-club look, then more power to you.